Stress

I have been neglecting my blog and I know it. This was suppose to chronical every thing that I was doing for this wedding as I did it. You know, do something, come home, blog about it. But I am finding that as I started to get things done, the last thing I wanted to do was write about it. I would get home just exhausted whether it was ordering invitations or doing registries or dealing with bridesmaids dresses. I just didn't want to talk about it anymore.

But I am going to try to be more deligent. Today was a really productive day. I sent an email off to the lady that is doing our invites and gave her a gentle prod about it. If she doesn't respond by Wednesday, I am having Chris give her a call. He is my little pit bull when it comes to phone calls.

I also emailed Erin, our wedding coordinator, because Fred hasn't gotten back to me about menu and pricing. That is making me more than a little nervous. We sort of need to know how much this is going to cost us. We have budgeted 10K and already spent about 3K in terms of deposits/my dress/etc.

I made my appointment for my alterations in August. The woman told me five weeks to a month so I made my appointment for six weeks in advance, just to be safe. I am kind of excited. I have found my shoes too. I originally bought shoes at David's Bridal but since this is a beach wedding, I changed my mind. I am going to get http://www.surfanddirt.com/nofear/assets/product_images/PAAAAANPNMNKBDFE.jpg
these lovelies (my HTML was borked). I am excited about it.

I promise, another entry tomorrow.

Because they can

I am slowly starting to think that this wedding is going to bankrupt Chris and I. For two people who wanted a simple toes in the sand kind of beach wedding, we are spending a hell of a lot. I was typing up our budget of what we have spent, what we are expecting to spend, etc and it is not looking good. Even with my mom offering to pay half.

And this is what I realized...weddings cost so much because they can. Weddings and funerals are the two things that people do not want to compromise on. They are willing to spend an insane amount of money because society tells us that these days are of utmost importance. It isn't that they are any more important than any other day, it is just that we are told they are. So people spend thousands, hell, hundreds of thousands of dollars on this single party. And at what point did it turn into this?

I'll be honest in that the only reason we are having a wedding is for our families. No offense to them but we would have been just as happy driving down to the JOP in our Sunday best and getting hitched. But I know that part of what makes a wedding special is that it isn't for the bride and groom so much as their friends and family. Again, its like a funeral. Funerals aren't for the dead guy, they are for the people that are left behind.

I mean, think about it. Most brides and grooms are so stuck in this surreal experience, that they don't remember it. They put on a huge party, a huge expense, for the enjoyment of everyone else. And for that reason, I don't mind doing it. After all, I am the girl that used to throw these HUGE birthday parties, invited my whole class, just had fun with it.

So, does anyone want to buy a kidney? Slightly used by still in good condition. Cost: One wedding and honeymoon. :)